Worry vs Wonder...

Is there blessed within your stressed? Or is there stressed that seeks for blessed?

Worry is about what could happen and is often using the past to predict the future. It's constricting due to the limits of what is possible, but it's convincing because some of what's possible is based upon what's already come to pass. Being right is rewarding, yet if it rewards being the same and that's not working we can end up stuck.

Wonder is about what is possible and what is powerful. It's a place of teaching about what is good already & a place of learning as you explore more.

Describe wonderful things that already exist and you will probably notice that its not just a what held within your head, it has a why that weaves within your heart.

Wonder clears the mind and opens the heart.

So many people approach health from a place of stressed and seeking blessed. When I suggest to reverse the order and start from blessed as you seek for stressed, most people tilt their head or shake it, referencing confusion or incompatibility within a belief.

What if you were wonderful right now and you decided to take action from there?

What good already exists?

You are a blessing now.

I had one client say, "If I felt blessed I wouldn't take action." But there in lives the lie. If you are blessed you may not desire to experience stressed. But small bouts of deliberate discomfort bring a long term benefit.

Here is one analogy I offer in order to see from another perspective...babies.

Stick with me, here's what I want to suggest...what if you were enough. When a baby is born you don't hold them in your arms and withhold your approval of how they exist. Babies can do nothing, and yet we proclaim their perfection. It's not that we don't want them to advance and develop, but we don't mistake their value and withhold any approval and appraisal in the now.

It's amazing how we trust a babies process. Yes there are some overly eager parents but that's a different story. We don't worry about a baby not being motivated to move. We innately understand their own innate development. Timelines differ from baby to baby, and so does their long term development, and yet they are precious and perfect.

Babies don't have a sense of self, and comparison to others. Yet they still take action. They don't do it so others approve of them. There's no ability to comprehend or compare. At birth a babies greatest strength is something like sucking, sleeping, or the occasional head holding before the neck gives out and they nestle into the nook of your arm. Pure bliss to witness.

Babies don't look at other babies and think, "Wow I better walk so I can be like them." Approval from others isn't why they take action.

Babies eventually mirror us, but approval is not the magnitude of the motivation to move their body. A new born baby holds its head and as it develops more strength it gains access to a "new" way of experiencing life. The baby doesn't comprehend how others see their growth as "good". They experience "wonderful" that comes with each gain as they continue to explore with what you might describe as a sense of "wonder" and curiosity.

But to gain the strength they have to consistently challenge the muscles. As babies learn to roll, crawl, and walk, they use their muscles to the point of fatigue and failure. Babies are unable to predict the future, so there's not stage for disappointment to play itself out. Avoiding the trap of disappointment is beneficial to babies. They never give up, even when they can't go on. They rest, and then return to the deliberate discomfort.

Why? Because the discomfort has a quality of life that comes with it. It is how their literal experience is changed...because of effort. While they may brush up against discomfort and feel friction and frustration from time to time, they don't let it mean they "can't". Babies are the best at exploring the edges of a challenge without making it mean anything about how the world views them.

Why? Because their growth isn't about others being happy with how they appear, its about them being able to show up and enjoy the experience.

Next time you feel like you if you feel like you are enough right now...consider that worrying about the way you are seen is getting in the way of your ability to wonder about what is possible...go explore more!